Psychology for parents: Birth to teens is a comprehensive reference guide for parents. It presents psychological research on parenting children from birth to teens. Topics covered include attachment, discipline, mindfulness, giftedness, language development and special needs.
Have you asked yourself the questions: Is it better to be strict or lenient with my children? Is it okay to smack? Does breastfeeding affect the mother-baby bond? How can I get my teenager to talk to me? What should I do if my child has dyslexia? If you want answers to these questions grounded in psychological research, download this book.
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One parent asked for advice on sibling rivalry:
‘My two sons don’t stop arguing at the moment despite everything I’ve tried. I thought it would get better as they got older but it hasn’t. It’s hard work having to deal with them squabbling all the time. What should I do?’
My book offers answers to such questions:
You can teach your children how to express their anger at each other in non-aggressive ways such as walking away or compromising. Children also need to be taught what they are not allowed to do to each other, for example, you can tell them that if they hit, shout or ridicule each other, they will be given a punishment for breaking your rules on acceptable behaviour. Although it is better to allow siblings to settle disputes between themselves as much as possible they still need to adhere to your rules about behaviour. Try to avoid comparing them as this can increase competitiveness. You need to make sure you don’t take sides or ask the older child to always give in to the younger one. Siblings are much more likely to fight and resent each other if parents are not equally affectionate and responsive to their children (Brody, Stoneman, & Burke, 1987). Ask yourself whether you are treating your children equally? You need to be careful in the number of positive versus negative remarks you give to each child and the amount of physical affection you show both your children.
‘This book is the perfect companion for parents, particularly those with babies or young children. Many books for parents try to sell a “how-to” or “step by step” approach to the early days/surviving toddlers, with little background reasoning as to “why” their particular approach is recommended. By contrast, this book clearly sets out a balanced view of the results of the psychological research on many of the issues which are most troubling to parents. The author does this in a very reader-friendly way and the book is lively and conversational as well as being backed up with solid psychology references. The book is well-structured and easy to dip into. Thoroughly recommended!’
‘I really enjoyed the book particularly the sections about toddlers to 4 year olds as I work with this age group and agreed with much the author had written. I liked the commentary which showed the author’s experiences and how she had handled these issues with her own son which I felt were very honest.’
‘This book is a great read, its informative, has an alternative parental guidance for children from birth to the awkward years of the teenager! It makes you aware of how you communicate verbally and non verbally and how you can tune into your child’s emotions.’
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 Attachment: Forming an attachment, security blankets and teddies, a mother’s needs, breastfeeding and attachment, tuning into your child’s emotions, ten guidelines for parents on attachment.
Chapter 2 Sleep: Sleep training, nightmares and night-terrors, sleep requirements, ten guidelines on sleep.
Chapter 3 Eating: Baby-led weaning, fussy eaters, obesity, restricted diets, eating together, ten guidelines on eating.
Chapter 4 Potty Training: Day-time training, night-time training, ten guidelines for parents on potty training.
Chapter 5 Going back to work: When to go back to work, child-minders, nurseries, grandparents, nannies, good quality childcare, ten guidelines for parents on going back to work.
Chapter 6 Discipline and moral development: Parenting style, smacking, discipline strategies, rewards and punishment, self-control, tantrums, parent-child interaction therapy, cheating, boasting/bragging, stealing, lying, ten guidelines for parents on discipline and moral development.
Chapter 7 Personality: Temperament traits, Developing independence, The Big Five personality traits, ten guidelines for parents on personality.
Chapter 8 Intelligence: Music and intelligence, emotional intelligence, social skills, hothousing, giftedness and acceleration, self-control, ten guidelines for parents on intelligence.
Chapter 9 Family Size and Siblings: Only children, larger families, parental wellbeing, sibling rivalry, birth order effects.
Chapter 10 Play: Importance of play, play therapy, aggression and play, ten guidelines for parents on play.
Chapter 11 Role models, gender stereotypes and the media: Role models, gender differences, television and computers, computer game addiction, ten guidelines for parents on role models and the media.
Chapter 12 Language and Education: Language development, baby-signing, learning to read, learning a second language, preschool education, school starting age, teaching through play, school refusal, left-handed and ambidextrous children, ten guidelines for parents on language and education.
Chapter 13 Teenagers: The teenage brain, sleep problems, social networking, developing an identity, parenting style, parental monitoring and lying, drugs, developing independence, sexuality, peer group, shoplifting, examination anxiety, mindfulness, career planning, ten guidelines for parents on teenagers.
Chapter 14 Special Needs: Autism, dyslexia, dyspraxia, ADHD.
Chapter 15 Problems: Bullying, divorce, step-parents, death.
Chapter 16 Mental health issues: Anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive disorder, anorexia.